Let not aggressive speech upset you [10:65]

Here is today's reflection from the Quran:

Yesterday we discussed how the Holy Prophet (saw) was guided to deal with the hypocrites who made covert plans to derail his mission. In addition to this, he was frequently subjected to insults and aggressive speech by those who had much to lose with the advent of the Islamic paradigm of monotheism and social justice.

In Sura Yunus, the Prophet (saw) is told: "And let not their speech grieve you; surely all honor belongs to Allah; He is the Hearing, the Knowing." [Quran 10:65]

While these words were addressed in the first instance to the Holy Prophet (saw), they have so much to teach us.

As we have been saying, words are powerful. They have the power to heal and the power to hurt. Even if we work on being mindful of our words, reality is that not everyone will respond. We may still encounter aggression and criticism. And sometimes such words will greatly impact our emotional and mental wellbeing, especially if we sense that they are unfair and are motivated by hate rather than love. We may replay these words again and again in our minds, allowing them to fester and unbalance our wellbeing. We may lose faith and confidence in our beliefs by being subject to such hate speech.

This verse reminds us that the words that others may speak are not necessarily true. When people spew hate and aggression, it usually has very little to do with us and everything to do with their own mental, emotional and historical baggage. Ultimately, no one can deprive us of honour or respect. No one can make us feel small unless we give them permission. What others say about us, truly does not make it valid or real. Indeed He gives honour and respect to whomsoever He wills, regardless of the opinion and plans of human beings.

This verse can act as an invisible shield for us, boosting our resilience and maintaining our emotional balance when faced with negativity or aggression.